“We need to know, that we can learn from suffering.”
The goodness of suffering is something real. Without suffering there cannot be happiness. Without mud there cannot be any lotus flowers. So if you know how to suffer, suffering is okay. And the moment you have that attitude, you don’t suffer as much anymore. And out of suffering, a lotus flower of happiness can open. by TNH
The Five Remembrances:
The Buddha said that all of us have the seed of fear, but most of us suppress it and keep it locked in the dark. To help us identify, embrace, and look deeply at the seeds of fear, he offered us a practice called the Five Remembrances. They are:
1. I am of the nature to grow old. I cannot escape old age.
2. I am of the nature to have ill-health. I cannot escape ill-health.
3. I am of the nature to die. I cannot escape dying.
4. All that is dear to me and everyone I love are of the nature to change. There is no way to escape being separated from them. I cannot keep anything. I come here empty-handed, and I go empty-handed.
5. My actions are my only true belongings. I cannot escape the consequences of my actions. My actions are the ground on which I stand.
Original Fear Every day we have to practice like this, taking a few moments to contemplate each exercise as we follow our breathing. We practice the Five Remembrances so that the seed of fear can circulate. We must invite it up to be recognized, to be embraced. And then when it goes back down again, it becomes smaller.
When we invite our seed of fear up like this, we will be better equipped to take care of our anger. Fear gives life to anger. We don’t have peace when fear is there, so it becomes the soil in which anger can grow.
Fear is based on ignorance. Lack of understanding is also a primary cause of anger. TNH
“When I invite fear up into my conscious mind, it then returns smaller to my un-conscious mind.”
Source- Reconciliation: Healing the Inner Child by Thich Nhat Hanh
Adapted by, G Ross Clark